Whether the G-Spot exists or not has long been debated, but the fact is that every woman has one. Knowing where it is and how to stimulate the G-Spot is another matter and it’s also important to highlight that not every woman can, or does, orgasm from having it teased.
For those wanting to try and launch an exploration into G-Spot pleasure, this quick, ‘where’s my G-Spot’ guide gives you the low down on what it is, where to find it and some suggestions on what to use for a truly thigh-quivering experience.
What is the G-Spot?
The G-Spot area was first discovered in the 1940s and was named after the the German gynaecologist, Ernst GrÃ¤fenberg, which is where the ‘G’ comes from.
Quite what the G-Spot is depends on what literature you’re reading: some describe it as an internal extension of the clitoris, which a 2009 study appears to support. Others describe it as a spongy area full of erectile tissue (like that found in the penis) and protects the urethra channel during friction, like that caused when engaging in penetrative sex. This becomes enlarged and, for some women, feels pleasurable when aroused and then stimulated.
Whichever way you look at it, there’s no doubt that this area of anatomy exists.
So, where’s my G-Spot?
Found on the front wall of the vagina (so, the same side as your belly-button), the spongy G-Spot area is located about 1-2 inches inside. Insert your middle, or middle and index finger up to the second knuckle and then curl them forward slightly, as if making a small come-hither gesture. It doesn’t need to be a hard, or forceful action as this may feel uncomfortable. Around this area, you should feel a slightly rougher spot. Every woman is gloriously different, so if you don’t feel it at first, try going a little deeper, or move back towards the vaginal opening.
What to use to help find it
When embarking on an exploration to find the G-Spot, we can’t recommend getting a good quality lubricant highly enough like a thick water-based Sliquid Naturals Satin Moisturiser (£11.99), or silicone lube such as Give Lube Silicone Premium (£11.99) will work perfectly well. Having slicked fingers will allow more glide, less friction and make it easier to feel around inside so you can identify the slightly rougher texture of the G-Spot.
Locating the G-Spot using your own fingers can be tricky as you have to curl your hand in a slightly awkward way. This is why some women prefer to get a partner to help them, or use one of the many G-Spot sex toys that are available.
Sex toys â€“ both vibrating and non-vibrating dildos â€“ that are designed for G-Spot stimulation can generally be identified because they’ll have a curve upwards at the tip. The curve might be quite subtle, like the Vibe Therapy Mantra (£41.99), have a large, smooth head like the Lelo Gigi 2 (£79), or have a very obvious curve such as the Rocks Off Groovy Chick (£39.99). Again, it’s best to use a lubricant with these, but stick to water-based as they’re generally more toy friendly.
If you’re only just beginning to explore where the G-Spot is (which is probably why you’re reading this guide), then opt for a G-Spot toy that has a wider, bulbous head, like the Gigi. The G-Spot is a small area and so using something a little bit bigger means it will make it easier to locate. Also, make sure you’re already aroused before G-Spot massage. Whether through clit stimulation, oral sex or nipple play, if you’re already turned on this little area will swell and fill with blood. The more excited you get the larger it becomes, making it easier to track down.
Whether you use fingers or a toy, stimulate the G-Spot by gently rubbing or rocking back and forth over the area. As it’s connected to the urethra, some women may experience a sensation like they want to go to the toilet. This is completely normal. It is, after all, interconnected. If it becomes uncomfortable, then of course you should stop as sexual pleasure should be just that: pleasurable.